According to statistics, the average sex session is 5-7 minutes, but 50% of guys last less than 2 minutes.
And when you give guys some anonymity, they admit it. The most popular response to a reddit poll on “how long does sex normally last” was 1-2 minutes and that’s majorly a problem.
The following techniques, when practiced diligently will help you improve on your sexual life Naturally.
Step 1: Reduce Your Sexual Anxiety
Ideally, If you go into sex thinking that you won’t last very long, you won’t. Sliding in with any sort of anxiety about your sexual abilities will make you cum much faster than you want to.
And biologically, it makes sense. The insecurity makes you anxious. Your body can tell that you’re anxious. The anxiety suggests that this isn’t a very safe environment for you to be naked with your eyes closed and unprepared to defend against one.
Step 2: Daily Exercises for Lasting Longer
There are only two things you need to do regularly to control premature ejaculation: kegel exercises and masturbation practice. Suprised right? You heared right, Masturbation!
Kegels and Reverse Kegels (less than 10 mins / day)
If you do nothing else in this article, do this.
The best way to improve your ejaculatory control is the strengthen the muscles that control ejaculation. Makes sense, right? You do that through kegel exercises, and reverse kegels, which train your pelvic floor muscles to help you.
Exercise 2: Masturbation & Edging (10-30 mins / day)
Many individuals are not aware that the way you masturbate also has influence on how quickly you ejaculate.
If you want to last longer, you have to start masturbating differently.
Many guys who have trouble lasting a long time have gotten themselves into bad habits from how they masturbate.
If you typically open the spank bank, go full jackhammer on your dick and finish up in a minute or two then yeah, you’re not going to have very much staying power with the real deal.
Here’s your new rule for masturbating: nothing less than 10 minutes. I don’t care if you have to spend 8 of those minutes just staring at it, you can’t let yourself cum in less than 10 minutes. Once that’s comfortable, up it to 15, then 20.
Here’s how it works:
Start masturbating, and get yourself up to a 7 out of 10 on the arousal scale. (You’ll just have to subjectively decide what this is for you, it’ll be easier to identify with practice).
Stop, and let yourself simmer down to a 5.
Now work up to an 8, and then stop again and let yourself slide down to a 6.
Up to 9, down to 7
Up to 9.5, down to 7 again. A 9.5 is just before the point of no return when you know there’s nothing you can do.
Repeat the 9.5 to 7 cycle over and over again until you get past 10 minutes. Then you can let yourself go, and you’ll notice this also makes your orgasms MUCH stronger.
As you’re getting more aroused, remember the STAB technique to slow yourself down:
Squeeze: Squeeze your PC muscles HARD like you’re doing an intense kegel. Hold them for at least 10 seconds, but the longer you can hold the more you’ll come down. (You might also have success doing a couple shorter 5-second holds, or a bunch of quick 1-second holds)
Think: Think about something else.
Avoid: Change your stroke (avoid the head) instead of stopping entirely.
Breathe: Take deep, diaphragmatic (with your stomach) breaths.
Ideally, you should combine all of them to get better control over your ejaculation, but start with one and then add others in until the technique becomes second nature.
Set aside 20 minutes a night for this kind of practice.